We need to stop being so "creepy weird" about nudity. By that I mean that we need to stop allowing it to be a big deal. Because by all rights, it shouldn't be. It didn't used to be when I was a kid.
Case in point. I went to a local event yesterday at a community center a few blocks from where I live. It was built in the 70's when the town was a lot smaller and concentrated in that area. It survives by hosting events, having a library and a very nice nature trail and boardwalk next to it, and having a rag tag skateboard park built in the back. Even so, it still operates as a community gym with a nice basketball court, a pretty decent workout room with lots of equipment, and lots of physical programs, such as yoga and martial arts. Membership for residents is ridiculously cheap. Enough so that I wonder why people flock to fancy private gyms scattered throughout the area when they can get their basic gym needs satisfied so cheaply.
At the event, being an apparently tired American, I had a need to find the rest room. It was, of course, the men's locker room, where I got a reminder of how simply we used to treat nudity. At least in gyms.
You first walk into a large square room with lockers along the wall and benches scattered about in the middle of the room. From there, you walk into another open room where the urinals and toilets are. The toilets had stalls, but the urinals and sinks were packed close along the wall with no other partitions in sight.
A little further on, there was a small steam sauna, followed by a large room with numerous shower heads every few feet along each wall.
What struck me as "odd" these days, is there was no place to hang or leave a towel. I remember the days where you simply came back to the locker room, stripped, put your clothes in the locker with your towel and other "stuff", and simply walked with the crowd toward the showers. You'd do you business, if you had any, along the way. Often waiting in line there, and for a place beneath a shower head. You'd talk with your friends while you soaped up and rinsed off, then made your way, often en masse, back to the lockers where you'd open your locker, retrieve your towel, dry off, get dressed, all while continuing chatting with your friends, and leave.
I bet those showers very rarely get used anymore. People would rather stink up their cars and go home to shower, instead of just going to work or continuing their day from there.
Sunday, August 14, 2016
Saturday, July 2, 2016
Degrees of Being a Nudist
Saying it that way makes it sound like "degrees of deviant behavior" instead of looking at it from my prospective of "degrees of being free of clothing compulsiveness", which challenges the alternative as being the unhealthy behavior.
Be that as it may, I was listening recently to the latest episode of the excellent Naturist Living Show podcast, Architecture of Nudism and Naturism, and it got me thinking as to what are the levels of involvement different people have with nudism and naturism? Thinking about it, I came up with the following levels. Many of them overlap and you might find yourself more in one category or the other, depending on your situation. Either way, where do you see yourself? And what "levels" would you define?
Intolerant of Nudity: Unfortunately this is the position of many state and local governments here in the US to the point that they pass laws that define in excruciating detail what's acceptable and what's illegal. Sometimes to the point of making you register as a sex offender if you're convicted of such a heinous crime. Very few people are as personally intolerant about nudity as these laws are. Even so, some people call the police when they see someone skinny-dipping, even in the remotest location. They see what their own species looks like as being fundamentally immoral and it's their duty to report any transgression. They object to any full display of the human form in art, movies, and TV, and consider any such display as being pornographic and obscene. Those people need to get a life. Fortunately, though many people assume more people are that strict about it, very few people actually are.
Nude Averse: These people actively avoid nudity whenever possible. When they run into people skinny-dipping, stumble onto a nude beach, or go to a gym where people are too casual about nudity in the gym locker rooms or showers, they leave and they don't come back. They avoid visiting family members who are casual about the nudity of their children. They change the channel and cover the eyes of their children when nudity is depicted on the TV or in movies. These people probably don't sleep naked , they get dressed right after they bathe, and they close and lock the door to prevent their kids from walking in when they're not dressed. And they teach their kids to do likewise. They've probably never skinny-dipped, or at least they'd never admit that they had.
Nude Tolerant: Most Americans probably fall into this category today. While they wouldn't visit a nude beach or nudist resort themselves, it's OK with them if others do. They don't mind changing and showering at the gym. Showering, that is, in a stall, not communally. They don't mind too much if others in the sauna are sitting on their towels instead of sitting with the towel around them, like they do. They don't mind their friend's kids running around naked in their house, but they wouldn't let their kids do that. They sleep naked if they want to and they don't scream at their kids if they walk in on them when they aren't dressed. But they're careful to not have that happen too often. They've probably skinny-dipped and don't mind saying they have as a "youthful indiscretion", but it's not something they'd do now. They ignore nudity on in the media and don't go out of their way to shield their kids from it, but they think it's unnecessary and they wish there wasn't so much of it. They think they're more liberal about it than they think most good people are. So out of respect for them, they don't object and might even vote for restrictive ordinances.
Casual about Nudity: These people don't mind using communal showers and they're the ones sitting on their towel in the sauna. If friends want to skinny-dip in a remote location or in a private pool or hot tub, they'll go along with it. They probably swim naked in their own pool when the kids aren't around. They don't give sleeping naked a second thought and they probably air dry after bathing or swimming and do light chores naked without feeling any need to hurry to get dressed. They don't mind if their kids run around naked for a while after their bath. They have an open door policy and behave no differently when their kids walk in on them naked than if they were clothed. They can be talked into going to a nude beach or a nudist resort with a close friend, but they don't want others to know if they went. They'll probably just check that off their bucket list and not come back on their own. That describes how I was raised.
Home Nudist: This person prefers being nude whenever they can be. Like anyone else, when they're home for the night and not going anywhere, they like getting comfortable. But they've discovered that removing ALL of their clothes is even more comfortable than just removing some of them, and they don't see any reason not to be nude at home. They've skinny-dipped and been to nude beaches often enough that they hate wearing swim suits. They do chores and projects around the house nude, and if their back yard is private enough, they'll garden, sunbathe, and swim nude if they own a pool. They don't mind if their neighbors and family know, but they respect other people's discomfort with it and are careful not to expose them to it. That describes me most days.
Recreational/Social Nudist: This person enjoys going to nude beaches and nudist clubs and resorts not only to enjoy the expanded opportunities to be nude, but to make friends and to meet people. They're friendly, engage in volleyball and other group sports there, and other people like being around them. But unless they live nearby, you don't see them there that often. They don't let it interfere with the rest of their life. That describes me.
Philosophical Naturist: Someone who thinks being nude and accepting others who are nude helps one to be a better person. That society demonizing nudity has psychologically and sociologically damaged us, and that we'd all be better off if we'd take a healthier attitude. They may or may not be naked as often as others are. They don't see themselves as just being a nudist (as in one who just likes being naked). Which is why I prefer the term "naturist" for myself.
Card Carrying/Activist Nudist: This person is a member of clubs and organizations not just for the discounts. They come to meetings, participate in outreach, write blogs, do volunteer work at their club, and aren't afraid to tell others all about. That used to describe me, but distance and the other distractions of life have limited me to this blog and answering questions on Yahoo and Quora.
Living It: These people live and often work 24/7 nude as much as they can. Either they live alone and don't have a lot of visitors, or they live in a nudist community and are rarely clothed unless they have to go into town. Visiting friends and family have to put with their host being nude. They dress at home for no one.
Time to launch this. I'll check back later and clean it up. Comment if you like. Look for a poll on this subject on the page.
Be that as it may, I was listening recently to the latest episode of the excellent Naturist Living Show podcast, Architecture of Nudism and Naturism, and it got me thinking as to what are the levels of involvement different people have with nudism and naturism? Thinking about it, I came up with the following levels. Many of them overlap and you might find yourself more in one category or the other, depending on your situation. Either way, where do you see yourself? And what "levels" would you define?
Intolerant of Nudity: Unfortunately this is the position of many state and local governments here in the US to the point that they pass laws that define in excruciating detail what's acceptable and what's illegal. Sometimes to the point of making you register as a sex offender if you're convicted of such a heinous crime. Very few people are as personally intolerant about nudity as these laws are. Even so, some people call the police when they see someone skinny-dipping, even in the remotest location. They see what their own species looks like as being fundamentally immoral and it's their duty to report any transgression. They object to any full display of the human form in art, movies, and TV, and consider any such display as being pornographic and obscene. Those people need to get a life. Fortunately, though many people assume more people are that strict about it, very few people actually are.
Nude Averse: These people actively avoid nudity whenever possible. When they run into people skinny-dipping, stumble onto a nude beach, or go to a gym where people are too casual about nudity in the gym locker rooms or showers, they leave and they don't come back. They avoid visiting family members who are casual about the nudity of their children. They change the channel and cover the eyes of their children when nudity is depicted on the TV or in movies. These people probably don't sleep naked , they get dressed right after they bathe, and they close and lock the door to prevent their kids from walking in when they're not dressed. And they teach their kids to do likewise. They've probably never skinny-dipped, or at least they'd never admit that they had.
Nude Tolerant: Most Americans probably fall into this category today. While they wouldn't visit a nude beach or nudist resort themselves, it's OK with them if others do. They don't mind changing and showering at the gym. Showering, that is, in a stall, not communally. They don't mind too much if others in the sauna are sitting on their towels instead of sitting with the towel around them, like they do. They don't mind their friend's kids running around naked in their house, but they wouldn't let their kids do that. They sleep naked if they want to and they don't scream at their kids if they walk in on them when they aren't dressed. But they're careful to not have that happen too often. They've probably skinny-dipped and don't mind saying they have as a "youthful indiscretion", but it's not something they'd do now. They ignore nudity on in the media and don't go out of their way to shield their kids from it, but they think it's unnecessary and they wish there wasn't so much of it. They think they're more liberal about it than they think most good people are. So out of respect for them, they don't object and might even vote for restrictive ordinances.
Casual about Nudity: These people don't mind using communal showers and they're the ones sitting on their towel in the sauna. If friends want to skinny-dip in a remote location or in a private pool or hot tub, they'll go along with it. They probably swim naked in their own pool when the kids aren't around. They don't give sleeping naked a second thought and they probably air dry after bathing or swimming and do light chores naked without feeling any need to hurry to get dressed. They don't mind if their kids run around naked for a while after their bath. They have an open door policy and behave no differently when their kids walk in on them naked than if they were clothed. They can be talked into going to a nude beach or a nudist resort with a close friend, but they don't want others to know if they went. They'll probably just check that off their bucket list and not come back on their own. That describes how I was raised.
Home Nudist: This person prefers being nude whenever they can be. Like anyone else, when they're home for the night and not going anywhere, they like getting comfortable. But they've discovered that removing ALL of their clothes is even more comfortable than just removing some of them, and they don't see any reason not to be nude at home. They've skinny-dipped and been to nude beaches often enough that they hate wearing swim suits. They do chores and projects around the house nude, and if their back yard is private enough, they'll garden, sunbathe, and swim nude if they own a pool. They don't mind if their neighbors and family know, but they respect other people's discomfort with it and are careful not to expose them to it. That describes me most days.
Recreational/Social Nudist: This person enjoys going to nude beaches and nudist clubs and resorts not only to enjoy the expanded opportunities to be nude, but to make friends and to meet people. They're friendly, engage in volleyball and other group sports there, and other people like being around them. But unless they live nearby, you don't see them there that often. They don't let it interfere with the rest of their life. That describes me.
Philosophical Naturist: Someone who thinks being nude and accepting others who are nude helps one to be a better person. That society demonizing nudity has psychologically and sociologically damaged us, and that we'd all be better off if we'd take a healthier attitude. They may or may not be naked as often as others are. They don't see themselves as just being a nudist (as in one who just likes being naked). Which is why I prefer the term "naturist" for myself.
Card Carrying/Activist Nudist: This person is a member of clubs and organizations not just for the discounts. They come to meetings, participate in outreach, write blogs, do volunteer work at their club, and aren't afraid to tell others all about. That used to describe me, but distance and the other distractions of life have limited me to this blog and answering questions on Yahoo and Quora.
Living It: These people live and often work 24/7 nude as much as they can. Either they live alone and don't have a lot of visitors, or they live in a nudist community and are rarely clothed unless they have to go into town. Visiting friends and family have to put with their host being nude. They dress at home for no one.
Time to launch this. I'll check back later and clean it up. Comment if you like. Look for a poll on this subject on the page.
Wednesday, June 29, 2016
Nudist Lifestyle or Naturist Philosophy?
I don't get it. What is this nudist "lifestyle" the media and people talk about? To me, being nude alone and with others is like riding a motorcycle. You can try it, it's nice, but maybe it's not your thing. For others, it's liberating and sensual to ride without all that glass and metal around you. Perhaps you ride simply because it's practical. You go to work, you come home. When it's rainy or cold out, you drive your car. Other than that, it's just an option.
But maybe you find it a wonderful option when it's available to you. You ride with friends at times, enjoying nice winding roads to a nice destinations together. But you don't forsake other things you like doing, to do that. You might live where everyone rides and that's the norm, but it's still OK if other's don't ride.
For other's it's a theme. You have to have the right bike, the right paint job, the right clothes, the right tattoos, the right friends, the right bar, the right bling, and the right home. You, sir or ma'am are a biker and you're expected to look and act like one. Never mind the fact that it all started with you just enjoying riding a motorcycle sometimes instead of a car. You're living the biker lifestyle and you have responsibilities to maintain and develop that lifestyle.
That's what some people think nudists do. That we are "that way", and "that way" permeates, defines, and rules our lives. I don't know about you, but preferring to be nude whenever I can be doesn't describe or define me. It just simply IS me.
A few years ago when my wife and I were driving across the northwest US and we spent spent a couple of days at a small nudist club along the way. A young couple was there with their large family and a beat up bus they were travelling and living in. The father had been working on the bus and he was head to toes a greasy, oily, mess. My wife thought it weird the he worked nude that way. But as anyone who has worked under cars on a messy job knows, the oil and grease are going to soak through your clothes anyway, and at least nude you might have some opportunities to wipe some of it off, instead of living in soaked clothes that way the whole day.
My point is, was he living the nudist "lifestyle" or simply living his life nude when he could, just doing what he would otherwise normally do?
The counterpoint is, was he, and do I, believe in a naturist philosophy where being nude is not only a more practical way to be when you can get away with it, but a better choice for oneself and others when it makes sense? Even if it most of the time it does make sense, but you can't accommodate it?
For me, it does make sense. It's the right thing to do and the right thing to welcome others to do. Be yourself. Look like yourself. Enjoy being what you are. Accept and welcome others simply as they are. Be glad you're human. Enjoy being part of nature and this world. Take care of yourself, help others, and be responsible to the world you've been privileged to live in.
That's not a lifestyle. It's a philosophy of life that in many ways is no different than for others who for some strange reason, keep their clothes on. Except that keeping your clothes on is stupid.
But maybe you find it a wonderful option when it's available to you. You ride with friends at times, enjoying nice winding roads to a nice destinations together. But you don't forsake other things you like doing, to do that. You might live where everyone rides and that's the norm, but it's still OK if other's don't ride.
For other's it's a theme. You have to have the right bike, the right paint job, the right clothes, the right tattoos, the right friends, the right bar, the right bling, and the right home. You, sir or ma'am are a biker and you're expected to look and act like one. Never mind the fact that it all started with you just enjoying riding a motorcycle sometimes instead of a car. You're living the biker lifestyle and you have responsibilities to maintain and develop that lifestyle.
That's what some people think nudists do. That we are "that way", and "that way" permeates, defines, and rules our lives. I don't know about you, but preferring to be nude whenever I can be doesn't describe or define me. It just simply IS me.
A few years ago when my wife and I were driving across the northwest US and we spent spent a couple of days at a small nudist club along the way. A young couple was there with their large family and a beat up bus they were travelling and living in. The father had been working on the bus and he was head to toes a greasy, oily, mess. My wife thought it weird the he worked nude that way. But as anyone who has worked under cars on a messy job knows, the oil and grease are going to soak through your clothes anyway, and at least nude you might have some opportunities to wipe some of it off, instead of living in soaked clothes that way the whole day.
My point is, was he living the nudist "lifestyle" or simply living his life nude when he could, just doing what he would otherwise normally do?
The counterpoint is, was he, and do I, believe in a naturist philosophy where being nude is not only a more practical way to be when you can get away with it, but a better choice for oneself and others when it makes sense? Even if it most of the time it does make sense, but you can't accommodate it?
For me, it does make sense. It's the right thing to do and the right thing to welcome others to do. Be yourself. Look like yourself. Enjoy being what you are. Accept and welcome others simply as they are. Be glad you're human. Enjoy being part of nature and this world. Take care of yourself, help others, and be responsible to the world you've been privileged to live in.
That's not a lifestyle. It's a philosophy of life that in many ways is no different than for others who for some strange reason, keep their clothes on. Except that keeping your clothes on is stupid.
Monday, May 9, 2016
Trans Bathroom Debate - Gender Identity
How much is gender identity instinctive and how much is conditioned? And to what extent is the gender one identifies with, tied with to one's sexuality and one's sexual preferences? I find it easier to accept differences in sexual preferences than I do people who feel that they're of the wrong gender to the point that they insist on trying to act and look like what the culture defines the other gender is supposed to look like and act like. Worse yet, to the point of using hormones and having gender reassignment surgery.
As social nudists, we have a different perspective on this issue. But it's not that different. As anyone who wasn't deliberately conditioned otherwise, we don't see the difference in the anatomies of the different genders as being that big a deal. We'd accept either, both, or neither as being people who should be accepted simply as they are. But that doesn't change the fact that we realize that culturally, and yes, physically, there are reasons why women want to be with their own kind when they're using the toilet facilities (excuse me if I don't use our idiotic American term, "rest room").
Let's face it, biologically assigned women are on average smaller, weaker, less aggressive, and have more to lose if a man assaults them, then the other way around. While using the facilities they're a lot more vulnerable and isolated than they would be in public. So why not give them their own space where they're more likely to be left alone? If a guy is so far enough along to pass himself off as a woman that no one would notice what their biological gender is, have at it. But if there's a unisex or family facility available, for the comfort of others who might suspect otherwise, please use those facilities instead. We don't need rigid laws. Our culture can take care of itself, thank you.
Last year I went to see Jake Owens at the end of his concert tour, back in his home town of Vero Beach at the baseball stadium where the Dodger's spring training team used to play. Pure magic. From playing the local bars and restaurants there, to making it big time, Jake is a local boy who we were all happy for.
During the breaks, the facilities were overtaxed and the women's facilities were totally overwhelmed, so the women lined up with the men to use their facilities.
They waited their turn going into the stalls, joking about the guys using the urinals next to them. The point is, we where their boyfriends, husbands, fathers, and yes, grandfathers of many of those women and anyone who was going to give them a hard time wasn't going to be happy with the result. I was impressed. Wow! Real adults!
Meanwhile, in nudist clubs and resorts, it's a mixed bag. Many of them are converted "textile" facilities inheriting men and women's facilities. But many of them have opened them up to "men and couples", or "women and couples".
Huh? Let's face it. In closed and often isolated facilities in our culture, women have more of a need to feel "safe" with their own kind, or at least with those that care about them, than being forced to intermix.
While at the same time, nudists easily shower together in the open, where everyone can see us and nobody can get away with being disrespectful of others.
So what should we do? First, respect the culture, even if you don't agree with it. Contribute to changing it, but respect it never the less. Second, don't pass laws that "presume" what the culture will tolerate. That's none of their damn business. And please stop creating these distractions when we have so many more important things that the government should be worried about!
As social nudists, we have a different perspective on this issue. But it's not that different. As anyone who wasn't deliberately conditioned otherwise, we don't see the difference in the anatomies of the different genders as being that big a deal. We'd accept either, both, or neither as being people who should be accepted simply as they are. But that doesn't change the fact that we realize that culturally, and yes, physically, there are reasons why women want to be with their own kind when they're using the toilet facilities (excuse me if I don't use our idiotic American term, "rest room").
Let's face it, biologically assigned women are on average smaller, weaker, less aggressive, and have more to lose if a man assaults them, then the other way around. While using the facilities they're a lot more vulnerable and isolated than they would be in public. So why not give them their own space where they're more likely to be left alone? If a guy is so far enough along to pass himself off as a woman that no one would notice what their biological gender is, have at it. But if there's a unisex or family facility available, for the comfort of others who might suspect otherwise, please use those facilities instead. We don't need rigid laws. Our culture can take care of itself, thank you.
Last year I went to see Jake Owens at the end of his concert tour, back in his home town of Vero Beach at the baseball stadium where the Dodger's spring training team used to play. Pure magic. From playing the local bars and restaurants there, to making it big time, Jake is a local boy who we were all happy for.
During the breaks, the facilities were overtaxed and the women's facilities were totally overwhelmed, so the women lined up with the men to use their facilities.
They waited their turn going into the stalls, joking about the guys using the urinals next to them. The point is, we where their boyfriends, husbands, fathers, and yes, grandfathers of many of those women and anyone who was going to give them a hard time wasn't going to be happy with the result. I was impressed. Wow! Real adults!
Meanwhile, in nudist clubs and resorts, it's a mixed bag. Many of them are converted "textile" facilities inheriting men and women's facilities. But many of them have opened them up to "men and couples", or "women and couples".
Huh? Let's face it. In closed and often isolated facilities in our culture, women have more of a need to feel "safe" with their own kind, or at least with those that care about them, than being forced to intermix.
While at the same time, nudists easily shower together in the open, where everyone can see us and nobody can get away with being disrespectful of others.
So what should we do? First, respect the culture, even if you don't agree with it. Contribute to changing it, but respect it never the less. Second, don't pass laws that "presume" what the culture will tolerate. That's none of their damn business. And please stop creating these distractions when we have so many more important things that the government should be worried about!
Sunday, May 8, 2016
Body Modification
I'm a live and let live kind of guy and if other people want to mark their bodies up with tattoos, insert foreign objects into themselves for decoration or sexual reasons, or have their bodies modified surgically to change how they look, I'm fine with that. It's a more personal and permanent way of expressing yourself than just by what you wear.
It's just not my thing. I have no tattoos, no piercings, and the only marks on my body are a few scars from injuries and surgeries that I needed for medical reasons. And I was circumscribed as an infant because my parents chose that for me. My body's unique in many more ways than that. Its size, color, shape, body and head hair patterns. A few freckles and moles here and there, but nothing that stands out. Short hair, closely trimmed beard. medium even allover tan.
I look like me and have no desire to look any other way. Your tattoos, piercings, boob jobs, liposuction, and other modifications don't impress me. You look like you want to be, not as you simply were. I would have been fine with you being just being as you were. But OK, I'll accept you as you are now.
Saturday, May 7, 2016
The Unkindest Cut
I had a very close relationship with my mother. She had a way of spontaneously starting and causally handling what would have been awkward conversations, making them easy. I don't remember how it happened, but I was pretty young when somehow the subject of circumcision came up. Likely, she out of the blue just brought it up so she could get it off her chest and explain why they did that to me. The reason, and only reason, they did it was so that I'd look like the other boys.
OK, warm up the time machine and let's go back to the 60's and let's see how that worked. At face value, she was right. Back then, boys grew up seeing each other naked almost every day using open locker rooms and showers associated with PE. We didn't give it much thought and my friends and I easily changed in front of each other and we even skinny-dipped together a few times without it being a big deal. We did that even as we developed while playing high school sports and as young adults at gyms.
Until high school, the schools I went to were mostly white. But there was a wide ethnic variety which only expanded when the schools were integrated and our high school became almost 50/50 white to black overnight. Even so, most boys were circumcised for the same reason I was. I only knew a couple of Jewish boys and I never put two plus two together there.
I never gave any thought to it until I met my best friend at the time who had just immigrated from Australia. Until then, I must have assumed it was a natural variation what went with other kids being different because they were of a different race. My friend and I were around 7 or 8, and other than that one thing, he looked just like me. It wasn't until my mother had that talk with me that I realized that, what the hell, I had been surgically altered just so I could look like the majority of other boys who had been surgically altered for no other reason than that.
That was entirely unnecessary. We were different enough from each other anyway, that it didn't make any difference to us that we were altered in the same way so the one part of us would look more alike. Even though today's youth hardly ever see each other naked, let's stop doing that to our kids.
OK, warm up the time machine and let's go back to the 60's and let's see how that worked. At face value, she was right. Back then, boys grew up seeing each other naked almost every day using open locker rooms and showers associated with PE. We didn't give it much thought and my friends and I easily changed in front of each other and we even skinny-dipped together a few times without it being a big deal. We did that even as we developed while playing high school sports and as young adults at gyms.
Until high school, the schools I went to were mostly white. But there was a wide ethnic variety which only expanded when the schools were integrated and our high school became almost 50/50 white to black overnight. Even so, most boys were circumcised for the same reason I was. I only knew a couple of Jewish boys and I never put two plus two together there.
I never gave any thought to it until I met my best friend at the time who had just immigrated from Australia. Until then, I must have assumed it was a natural variation what went with other kids being different because they were of a different race. My friend and I were around 7 or 8, and other than that one thing, he looked just like me. It wasn't until my mother had that talk with me that I realized that, what the hell, I had been surgically altered just so I could look like the majority of other boys who had been surgically altered for no other reason than that.
That was entirely unnecessary. We were different enough from each other anyway, that it didn't make any difference to us that we were altered in the same way so the one part of us would look more alike. Even though today's youth hardly ever see each other naked, let's stop doing that to our kids.
Are we what we wear?
I'm never at ease about my choices about what I wear. I get up in the morning and chose from a fairly narrow selection of "work clothes", pausing a bit to consider if who I might be meeting with that day and what the weather will like. Most of the time I'm only working with co-workers and most of the time it's warm or hot here, so the choice is usually khakis, a short sleeve shirt, and dress shoes. I downgrade to a golf shirt, jeans, and sneakers on "Casual Fridays", though to me wearing anything isn't casual enough.
Only very rarely if I'm meeting with a customer's upper management will I wear a tie and jacket or a full business suit. God I hate that clown outfit! It's literally a middle ages business uniform that looks absolutely ridiculous. Ties? What the heck! They're hideously uncomfortable around one's neck and what's with the vertical stripe of color down a light colored shirt, deep V'ed in by a thin and otherwise useless jacket? How uncool is that? All this so everyone knows what to look like in front of each other, even if everyone looks pretty silly.
The lab I work in makes everyone wear the same blue smocks to protect against electrostatic discharges. Worn over anything, everyone looks just about the same wearing them, creating an inadvertent "work uniform". In a way, it's a relief. Police officers, nurses, and many other professionals and blue collar workers wear uniforms to people identify them with their profession. At least they don't have to think much or care what we're wearing to work, and I don't have to care much if I'm going to be in the lab all day.
Then there's the trap of what to wear when going out with friends or to social events. How dress up is it? What are other people wearing? My wife's fashion sense is even worse then mine. Not that she doesn't dress well herself, but she often underestimates how dressed up I should be.
I shouldn't care, but I'm still very conditioned to care. And maybe that's a big reason I like being naked whenever I can be. It's the uniform God issued us. That's what people look like. That's me. I'm more than happy for other people to look like themselves instead of being weirdly decorated. It's a tremendous relief not to have to care anymore when I and others are nude.
Only very rarely if I'm meeting with a customer's upper management will I wear a tie and jacket or a full business suit. God I hate that clown outfit! It's literally a middle ages business uniform that looks absolutely ridiculous. Ties? What the heck! They're hideously uncomfortable around one's neck and what's with the vertical stripe of color down a light colored shirt, deep V'ed in by a thin and otherwise useless jacket? How uncool is that? All this so everyone knows what to look like in front of each other, even if everyone looks pretty silly.
The lab I work in makes everyone wear the same blue smocks to protect against electrostatic discharges. Worn over anything, everyone looks just about the same wearing them, creating an inadvertent "work uniform". In a way, it's a relief. Police officers, nurses, and many other professionals and blue collar workers wear uniforms to people identify them with their profession. At least they don't have to think much or care what we're wearing to work, and I don't have to care much if I'm going to be in the lab all day.
Then there's the trap of what to wear when going out with friends or to social events. How dress up is it? What are other people wearing? My wife's fashion sense is even worse then mine. Not that she doesn't dress well herself, but she often underestimates how dressed up I should be.
I shouldn't care, but I'm still very conditioned to care. And maybe that's a big reason I like being naked whenever I can be. It's the uniform God issued us. That's what people look like. That's me. I'm more than happy for other people to look like themselves instead of being weirdly decorated. It's a tremendous relief not to have to care anymore when I and others are nude.
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