Thursday, August 25, 2011

Why am I a Nudist?

Language is a funny thing.  If I had phrased the title "Why I am a Nudist", I'd be justifying my choice.  This would be like me explaining "Why I am an Engineer", instead of trying to figure out why I was doomed to become one (Why am I an Engineer?).   Scott Adams described me all too well, right down to building ham radios at a young age:  "The Knack".   Sometimes I think he should have called it "The Curse".

So...  I like going to nude beaches.  I like going to nude campgrounds and resorts.  I'm very comfortable being nude around others, and other people look just fine to me when they're naked.   Even so, most people don't feel that way, so why do I?

I get the feeling that if I asked God, he would be annoyed and amused by the question.  He'd say, "look stupid, you're supposed to like being what you are, and you're supposed to like others being what they are".   I didn't create you to be ashamed of yourself and intolerant of the form of your own species.  You're not the one who's screwed up about this.  The others are.  And stop calling yourself a "nudist".  You're a human.  Enjoy being human.   Go away and find something more important to complain about.



 

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Mazo Beach Revisited

Though I live in Florida, about 15 years ago I did a 5 year stint in the Midwest.  By then, I was already going to different nude beaches and resorts, so I looked up where to go there.  Mazo Beach in Wisconsin was about a 3 hour drive away from where I was working.  It was a long day trip or an easy overnighter, so I started going for several weekends over the summers I was there.

I loved the place and the people, but life once again intervened and I was back in Florida and rarely had a chance to be back up that way for any length of time.  Except this weekend.  I had to be up there on Monday, so I came up on Friday and spent the weekend touring Wisconsin and spending today (Sunday) at Mazo.

It used to be that you could park at the end or along the road if the lot was full (which it usually was unless you got there very early).  Now the only people who can use that lot are the disabled who have requested and received keys to the gate.d  For everyone else, it's a 20 minute walk from a thankfully large parking lot.

I got there around 9 AM, driving up from Madison, wanting to spend a full day there.  It was sunny and in the 70's (it was pushing 100 a lot the weeks before).  People started to arrive slowly, spreading out and not talking to each other much.  But as the day wore on, there were easily over 200 people there and things got pretty lively.  The volleyball net was strung up and a long string of spirited games began.  The mix started off mostly male, but by afternoon, there was a good mix of couples, including a few families with young kids.  A very nice happy crowd.

I used to be painfully shy, but these days I make it a point to start up casual conversations, which I did with several people.  There was a young couple on the fringe who came in on kayaks scoping the place out.  They were there the whole afternoon.  Him clothed, her only topless.  I stopped by welcoming them and encourage them to walk around, clothed being fine, and just listen.  Others came by and were also very friendly to them.  Maybe next time they'll take the plunge.

By 3 PM, it was getting cloudy with some sprinkles, and I had a long drive back to where I had to be on Monday.  Even though some had already left, the disabled lot was crammed full of bicycles, the large parking lot at the end of the long walk was full, and outside the reserve, there were calls parked up and down the street on both sides for some distance.

I'm glad to see Mazo is still much the same.  Wonderful!


Saturday, August 13, 2011

What people look like naked

I wonder why people think that people look so awful naked, or why people assume they would be sexually aroused just by the sight of naked people.

I like the way we are.  We're diverse, interesting, and yes, beautiful in our own ways.  Kids are cute, adults look fine, and older people and people who aren't in the best shape really don't look that much different naked than with their clothes on.  Everyone looks like people.

I like seeing black people, gay people, Asian people, old people, out of shape people.  In short, I like being human.  I like the variety.  I like being me and I like you being you.

I'm not perfect.  I don't want to be.  And I don't care that other people aren't perfect.  I feel sad that so many others are blinded by this.  Life really is too short.

Sunsport Gardens and the Florida Young Naturists "End of Summer" bash.

I don't get out on weekends to nude beaches and nudist resorts nearly as often as I used to, but I found myself "home alone" this weekend with my wife away visiting our daughter (out of state grad school).  I haven't been to Sunsport Gardens near West Palm Beach for ages, so I thought I'd give it a try.  Bad news number one was a 50 percent chance of rain (it was sunny until after dinner), and bad news (maybe) number two was that while checking their web site to see if there was anything going on this weekend, I noticed that a group called the Florida Young Naturists was having an "End of Summer" bash there.

Sunsport has a soft spot in my heart.  Two other resorts (Cypress Cove and Sunnier Palms) are closer and I  usually go to one of them if I don't have a lot of time.  But 30 years ago in my early 20's (do the math), I had visited several nude beaches, loved it, and I decided to try a nudist resort or club environment.  The problem was I was at the time young, single, and male.  This was "pre-Internet" so I called several places and I was told by most that I wasn't welcome.

Except at Sunsport.  The owner and founder, Hugo, answered my call and told me to come and that I'd be welcome.  And I was.  The place had, and has, a lot of character with friendly people in a natural south Florida setting.  I went on to become affiliated with several groups and eventually visited many other clubs.  But from time to time, I continued to visit Sunsport.

Fast forward...  I knew that Sunsport hosted the mid-winter festival, various conventions, youth camps, and the like.  And I had seen a reference to the Florida Young Naturists before, but I really didn't know anything about them.  I figured I'd go to Sunsport anyway, figuring that there was room enough for everyone.   There often was often a good mix of ages, races, and professions at Sunsport, which always made it special.

Oh my God, did those kids know how to have a good time!  Friday was free for everyone.  They set up camp and sat around the drum circle.  Some apparently drank a bit much, and they probably got a bit loud well into the wee hours.  But isn't that what you called a good time when you where their age?  I arrived early on Saturday.  Even so, many of them were already out and about by then.

FYN members ages 18-30 had free camping over the entire weekend and the weekend ground fees (wristband) was only $11!  Plus there was reasonable cost food available breakfast, lunch, and dinner.  And on Sunday, they were going to visit Haulover (the excellent nude beach run by Dade County north of Miami Beach).

They had live music from different bands.  Which was interesting talking to the band members in the pool with them naked for the first time about what they expected.  And they had this huge blow up water slide.  And I mean HUGE.  So fast that when you hit the end, you end up flying up and flipping around.  Yes, I did it several times, with a smile on my face each time afterwards.  Fortunately, I didn't break anything.

They played volleyball and body painted each other all afternoon.  They did Yoga.  They even talked with the old people (including me).  They were from several states, not just Florida, just for this event.  They had a Spring event at Sunsport which most of them had attended, so this was a natural follow-up.

When I asked how they knew of the organization(FYN) and the event, the answer was friends and Facebook.  Many came on their own, not knowing anyone.  We've come a long way from ordering books and making embarrassing phone calls.

I had a wonderful time just being around them.  There must have been 50+ attending.  If you're in the 18 to 30 range or close to it...  Join this group!  They had so much fun and were so much fun to be around.  I didn't see anyone who was drunk and disorderly.  Many were first timers and might not have know better.  Even so, there was nothing sexual about it and there was no such tension in the air.  There were many families attending.  Lots of kids enjoying themselves with happy parents.

Would I want my kids, a son and daughter both in that age group, to associate with that group?  Hell yes!  Yeah, my kids aren't into it even though they know that I am.  I can only hope that someday, they'll at least consider it.

Friday, August 12, 2011

Nude Beaches

Nude Beaches are strange and wonderful places.  Mythical to people who have never been to one, but mentioned often enough in the media and in hush tones by people who have heard something about them (but would never go there themselves, mind you!).

I'm here to tell you that yes Virginia, they do exist.  In many countries, a large percentage of public beaches have clothing optional sections, or are simply just mixed.  In some places, nude use is allowed except where it's posted that it isn't.  Otherwise, relax, get comfortable, and enjoy.

Here in the US, it's a mixed bag.  "Officially" the culture is wary to even hostile to them.  But in many places, the locals take a live and let live attitude, sometimes even defending the beaches.  In some states, counties, and communities, it's technically illegal to be naked in public.  But even in many of those places, the authorities often just look the other way as it's just too much trouble to police them.  In other areas, they're technically legal and they're often accepted by the majority of people in the area.

Most are in out of the way primitive areas.  Lousy parking, long walks, no facilities, no water.  If you don't know where to go, you're not going to find them.  Out of sight, out of mind as far as the locals and the authorities are concerned.  Others are well known and not at all difficult to get to.  For others, just follow the signs (by name, not by reference to them being nude beaches).  One, Haulover Beach north of Miami Beach, is right off the main drag, has food vendors, police patrol, lifeguards, and hotels within walking distance.  All the amenities you'd expect for a county run park, without a large and official clothing optional section (where most the people go, of course).

Some of the smaller ones aren't that friendly (I'll leave you alone and you leave me alone).  But most of the larger ones have a core of regulars who are usually friendly and are easy to approach.  As with any beach, the vibe varies depending on the mix of people there and how accepted the beach is.  Wreck Beach on the outskirts of the University of British Columbia (Canada) has a festive college crowd, wild scenery, and in short, is wonderful.  Mazo Beach (Wisconsin) is my favorite.  Many college kids, but also long tradition of use by people and families from all over the state.  Along a nice river and the people I've met there are very friendly and fun loving.

I live near the Canaveral National Seashore in central Florida.  The southern half is in a county with an anti-nudity ordinance (not enforced much), and the northern half is in a county that doesn't have an ordinance.  In either county, if you stay in the unofficial clothing optional section, they'll leave you alone.  Some years ago in the southern county (Brevard) the supervisor of the park had it out for the nudies and tried to make us feel very unwelcome.  I tried to strike up a conversation with a ranger there one time and he wouldn't even face me, saying only that he'd answer my question after I got dressed.

But on the north side I was there one time when a young ranger intern approached me.  She must have drawn the short straw and was not at all comfortable being there.  She had the unpopular task to clear the beach due to an approaching hurricane (several days out) of hundreds of naked people who weren't going to be happy to be told that they had to leave.

I had a nice chat with her trying to put her mind at ease, then I told her that I would help.  I went up and down the beach explaining to everyone the unpopular order, pointing to her at a distance without dragging her into it.  Everyone left, and I got the feeling that the ranger left leave her internship there with fond memories and a better understanding that yes, we are people too.

If you spend much time some of the better beaches, you'll see a lot of magic.  Church groups canoeing by, then turning around to play several games of volleyball with the naked people (Mazo).  Long naked hikes on endless miles of undeveloped beach, smiling and waving at clothed people passing by on horseback (Canaveral).  Listening to an elderly couple trying it for the first time, overhearing them say that they hadn't felt that young in years and how wonderful it was there (Haulover).  Kids playing.  People surfing.  People fishing.  Gays, straights, young, old, regulars, and first timers.  Everyone having a great time.

It is what you make of it.  Smile, be friendly, help others.  Make some magic.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Answering Questions

This blog is an offshoot of my answering questions about nudism and nudity on Yahoo Answers (answers.yahoo.com) under this same identity (rick407).  When I got interested in nudism in my early 20's, I dived right in trying to find out everything I could about it:  Surfing the web, buying books, visiting different nude beaches and resorts, joining local and national organizations, and visiting different forums on the Internet.

I soon realized that I could no longer see things from the average outsider's point of view.  Perhaps my perspective was already tainted before I even became involved.  Growing up, my family wasn't overly casual about nudity, but they weren't all that ashamed of it either.  And I had the example of my cousin raising his son in a nudist family.  My very first visit to a nude beach on a dare to myself (Black's Beach near San Diego) both satisfied my curiosities, and opened my eyes to how wrong our culture was about it.

Chatting at forums, clubs, and beaches became like preaching to the choir.  For the most part, we all have the same attitude about it, though on just about every other subject, we differ.  So I began to wonder, what does the "average" person think about it?

I keep my ears open and see plenty of curious interest in the media, and even some mention it from others who don't know I'm a nudist.  I listen carefully, trying not to bias the discussion with my own views so I can see where they'll go with it.  From that, my impression is that most people are curious and really aren't all that offended by nudity, though around others they'll at least pretend to be to offended reinforce what they believe to be the social norm.   All of which makes the social norm seem more rigid that it probably really is among individuals.

My continued curiosity of "what do people really think" lead me to start answering questions on these subjects on Yahoo Answers.  It's been pretty interesting.  The younger the questioner, the more honest and innocent the questions.  They tend to fall into the following categories:

Sleeping Naked:  Mostly asked by younger people who are sharing a room (siblings, dorm room mates, etc.), or from those who don't feel they have enough privacy to get away with it (parents or siblings coming into the room at the wrong times).

I used to share a bedroom with my younger brother and transient nudity (changing) was no big deal.  Honestly, the idea of sleeping nude hardly ever crossed my mind, but if it had, I would have had no problem with stripping as if to change and just jumping into bed that way.  I don't think my brother would have thought it to be that odd, nor would my parents if they noticed it.  But I understand that a lot of the people writing about it are anxious about it, though I doubt their siblings or parents would really care all that much if the slept that way.

Nudity being pornographic:  Some people can't get the association between not wearing clothing and sex out of their heads.  Especially thorny to many people is childhood nudity and pedophiles.  Nudity by itself isn't erotic, and even a die hard pedophile would probably get bored with it after a while.

Someone saw me naked:  Guess what. No matter how careful people are, someday they're going to be seen naked by accident, and there will be times when they'll see others that way.  Get over it.  That's what our species looks like.  You're not that special, and neither are they.

Erections:  Groan...  So many people assume that the environment will be arousing, when it's not.  OK, when too anxious and while asleep, it can happen.  I don't think most of us care, as long as the person isn't trying to sport it and make an issue of why they should be removed.

Kid's being naked:  Naked is our natural state.  The younger the kid is, the less likely they've been fully conditioned to the cultural norm and the more likely they'd rather just run around naked whenever they can get away with it.  There's something to be learned there.

Understanding other people's comfort with it (nudists and just people who are more casual about it than most people expect).  I try to turn it around and have the person try to see themselves as the one with the problem.

Questions of what the Bible or religion says about it.  I put my own understanding out there, but point to what others who've studied the subject say.

Lots of other random questions handled by myself and other nudists.  Some of the other people answering questions are recognized from other venues (club leaders, owners, or spokesmen).  But some are just nudists like myself putting in their two cents worth.  Often their answers are so much better than mine, or exactly what I would have said, that I either give them a thumb's up vote and move along.  Or I reinforce their view and show solidarity with their answers.  Either way, there's good people out there trying to educate the sometimes uneducatable.